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Dating is any social activity undertaken by, typically, two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as their partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal.

In many cultural traditions, a date may be arranged by a third party, who may be a family member, acquaintance, or professional matchmaker. Recently internet dating has become popular.

Although dating etiquette in Western culture has become more relaxed during the twentieth century, there are considerable differences between social and personal values. For example, when an activity costs money (for example, a meal), traditionally the man was expected to pay; but in recent times the practice of "going Dutch" (splitting the expenses) has become common and acceptable.

daymo02 asked: "To all of the Christian out there could you tell me about some of your dating experience. Or give me some pointers, you no the do’s and the don’ts of Christian dating."

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rosenmdn replied: "Pray before you date!"

Darth Eugene Vader replied: "Keep your hands under control."

Brynn replied: "There shouldn't be any difference, at least I don't see why there would be, as long as you aren't prattling on about how false Christianity is. I'd say there isn't any point in bringing it up, or even paying attention to it, aside from avoiding saying anything offensive... but anything that may be offensive should be obvious."

Lissandra replied: "http://www.lovehappens.com click on the above. get a free profile and go (i forget) options and they would allow u to look for Christians. (under the religion option)and as for personal experience, i found mine on myspace! (if u mean online dating) we met in person. and he seems amazing!DO's= someone who will be willing to start going to my church, someone who has a great strength to stick to God, someone, basically the person God wants me to be withDON'Ts= predators, stalkers, and creepy people"

marigold asked: "I'm thinking of posting my profile on a Christian dating site but there are so many and I don't know which ones are good. Can someone suggest a good one that also happens to be free?"

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Christian replied: "I think there is one called Christian friend finder."

mike_from_mu replied: "EHARMONY.COM BUT WHO CARES JUST USE YAHOO OR MY SPACE TAKE OUT A PERSONAL AD WHY SPEND ALL THAT MONEY FOR THAT..."

James B replied: "It isn't free, unfortunately christiansingles.com. you can put a profile on there for free and look at profiles free, but you can only contact someone if they are online via an IM"

carrie replied: "http://christian-personals.us"

sweetjazzplayer asked: "I've been on other Christian dating sites only to be dissappointed. I found the people not to be who they claim to be."

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klaudya replied: "even in a site like the one you want people pretend to be somebody else. i personally don't know any like that."

Mark M replied: "I prefer the smaller dating sites and the niche sites. I recommend trying"

Larissa replied: "http://christian-personals.us"

Smiley asked: "I am just looking for an inspirational book on the ups and downs of dating in a Christian manner. Or any other book inspirational or just really good for Christian teens? Please put book title and author so I have a chance of finding it. Thanks!"

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~twinkletoes~ replied: "Joshua Harris - I Kissed Dating GoodbyeIt's really good. It's for both girls and guys. Best wishes!"Ideal for single adults and teens, I Kissed Dating Goodbye presents the model for biblical friendship and principled romance. A best-selling book with more than 800,000 copies in print, this book was named the number one paperback non-fiction book for all of 1998 and number two for all of 1999.""

Sherry replied: "Not sure if this is for teenages, but it is written by an Evangelical Christian. It is called "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" by Dr. Henry Cloud.I enjoyed it."

Vladimir Beckham replied: "read Joshua Harris books....."

dancing_brunette12 replied: "My mom ,sisters and I all read; "Every Young Womans Battle" I'm not sure who it's by I think John Etheredge(sp?). It not only covers dating but what goes on in guys heads & how 2 dress and alot of other stuff. It's pretty ruff 2 read but it's really helpful!! Contact me if u need help w/ the author i can find the book!"

Alx replied: "Hm-mm. How about from a Jewish [former Christian] author.Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their LivesDR. LAURA C. SCHLESSINGER"

laney_po replied: "Dating Mr. Darcy by Sarah ArthurAny girl who's seen Pride & Prejudice or read Jane Austen knows that the much misunderstood Mr. Darcy is the ideal gentleman. But is it possible to find your own Mr. Darcy in today's world of geeks and goons? With smart tips, spiritual insights, and discussions of Jane Austen's popular stories and movies, best-selling author Sarah Arthur equips young women to gauge a guy's Darcy Potential (DP) according to his relationships with family, friends, and God.Before You Meet Prince Charming by Sarah MallySupport your daughter in her efforts to live her teen years with Christlike purity---without preaching a sermon! Recommended by Gregg Harris as "delightfully humorous" and "helpful," Mally's allegorical tale of a puzzled princess is a girl-to-girl narrative that features discussion questions, illustrations, memory verses, and suggestions for further reading. 259 pages, softcover from Tomorrow's Forefathers.Boyland by Andrea StephensDescription: B.A.B.E.s, pack your bags and pick up your passports--you're about to take a trip to a truly exotic place called Boyland. It's definitely foreign territory, but this ultimate guidebook will help you get to know the natives, learn to communicate in a way they'll understand, and get a glimpse into why they do what they do. Inside you'll find out:What's really going on the inner workings of the boy brainWhy personality and body language are importantWhat they're really saying and how to translateWhy being "only friends" is totally coolAnd that's not all. You'll also find quizzes, quotes from Boylanders, interviews with experts, cool conversation starters, and more! If you're looking for tons of advice on every teen girl's favorite topic, grab this book and head out with confidence. As a beautiful, accepted, blessed and eternally significant B.A.B.E., you're going to have great relationships with guys!"

catrin l replied: "No."

fun lover replied: "go to books a million and ask about this topic and they can help you but from me i say dating:the dream world by James and Carol Daines"

Ghost Eagle replied: "I loved the book Pride and Prejudice!"

sexxychick replied: "Kissed the girls and made them cry by Lisa Bevere"

Puff replied: "fiction:Departures:3 books in one by Robin Jones Gunn(or any of her Christy Miller or Sierra Jensen novels)some Melody Carlson (or is it Carson?) novelsJulie or Christy both by Catherine MarshallA Room of my Own by Ann TatlockThe Shunning by Beverly LewisThe Blue Bottle Club by Penelope StokesFifteen by Beverly ClearyA Gown of Spanish Lace by Janette OkeNonfiction: I Gave Dating a Chance by Jeramy Clark, Lady in Waiting by Jones Kendall. Both are excellent"

Just another guy asked: "From what i've seen, nothing. But i know its not right. I need some help here."

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stratplayer1967 replied: "christian dating is establishing a relationship that is built on the principles of scripture. forming a relationship that honors God and not yourself. If you are a christian, you already know the answer to this, the hard part is following through with it."

just me replied: "Actually, Christian dating is dating on a whole different level: a spiritual level. Both of you should have a relationship with Jesus, #1 priority.Dating is getting to know somebody on a friendship level, with the hopes or possibility of getting married later. Both of you should be comfortable praying with each other. Try serving together on a ministry team. That is a great way to see each other in "action for the Lord". The thing that drew me to my husband is his heart for God. He is warm, sensitive, and gives his whole heart to God everyday. You need to write down a list of what you want in a spouse. Ask God to bless this, and ask for His direction in dating. You'll see how He will lead you along. Don't lost sight of Jesus in the process. A relationship with Jesus in the center is the most initmate relationship anyone can ever experience!!! (I know, I have one!)(Careful, I have dated a few guys who "pretended" to be Christian to get a "pure" girl. Lookout for those guys!!) Good luck and God bless"

agsmile02 replied: "I think there seems to be no difference, but there should be. Christian dating should be where you respect one another as brothers and sisters in the Lord and should be for deciding whether you two would be right together in a marital relationship. Non Christian dating is for the moment, no real strings are attached. Most people date for fun but not for a real commitment. In non christian dating, instead of looking out for the other person, you are looking out solely for your own selfish interests as to what you can get out of this relationship, not how you can build a person up. In Christian dating, you are trying to get to know the person on the "who they are down deep" level, spiritual level (what are their views on God, what denomination are they, what is their favorite scripture, do they have quiet times with God, do they have Christian friends...), and to a lesser extent the physical level. The physical level is where in my belief that a Christian dating relationship should be vastly different from non christian. A Christian should realize that they do not own their partner and that their partner is someone else's wife or husband. Therefore, at the most, a kiss is all that once should get out of Christian dating other than hand holding. In non christian dating, it seems that everyone is having sex without views for the ramifications both spiritually, emotionally, and the threat of disease. It is true that many Christians are dating like those who are in the world which may be why you have yet to find a difference between the two types of dating. best of luck."

A fundamentalist Christian University has apologized for racist policies including a one-time ban on interracial dating that wasn't lifted until nine years ago and its unwillingness to admit black students until 1971. The South Carolina National Association for the Advancement of Colored People said the civil rights group welcomed the apology.

Congratulations, tolerance mau-mauers: Your shakedown of a Christian-targeted dating website worked. Homosexuals will no longer be denied the inalienable “right” to hook up with same-sex partners on eHarmony. What a landmark triumph for social progress, eh?

Honestly, I don't get it. If I start on on-line gay dating service, I certainly don't want Tony Perkins suing me to create a Christian-oriented service (separate but equal). This has all become fodder for the right wing whackos. Michelle Malkin labeled us "mau-maus."

God-hating sodomite thug Eric McKinley sued Christian-oriented heterosexual dating service eHarmony for the "right" to be matched up in sinful relations with Godly Christian men. He WON. Read the story and our call to action!

Seems after 8 long years e-Harmony is finally allowing gays - sort of. As part of a settlement in a recent court battle they will be launching a new site for gays - sure their money is just as green, but come on now we can't let 'em on a good Christian dating site!

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